For the majority of my life I’ve wanted to be a published author (well, ever since I started writing poetry for a girl). That said, I’m absolute garbage at writing fiction. Seriously, I took a fiction writing class in college and all I could write were cheesy school special stories about being a camp counselor (which were no shade of accurate).
So it dawned on me a few years ago that in order to ever become a real author I would need to write stories about my life—creative nonfiction. I don’t know if you’ve ever tried to consistently write about your life but it creates a lot of pressure to do cool stuff. No one wants to hear about a day at the office, unless the office explodes and sets you on a whirlwind adventure to find a lost middle eastern painting.
Donald Miller is one of my favorite authors. He has a wonderful book called, “A Million Miles in a Thousand Years” which is about the process of writing a screenplay about his life. Trust me when I say you should read the book but I’ll paraphrase here accordingly.
So Don realizes in the process of writing this screenplay that his life, other than the college years that inspired his hit book, “Blue Like Jazz” is pretty boring. The producers are constantly pushing to make up things about his life in order to make the movie make sense.
So here’s the challenge: what would your movie look like?
I’m not sure mine would be so great either. Sure, I’ve got some cool stories—had some unique adventures. But I’ve never taken on a larger purpose/goal outside of what’s been placed in front of me.
But What About Marriage?
Marrying Brittany was an adventure and it will continue to be, but I’m not done. One of my favorite parts of the book, Wild at Heart is when John Eldredge discusses how marriage is not the goal of the adventure. Marriage is a wonderful union between two people, but your spouse cannot be your adventure because they will always let you down if you try to turn them into something they’re not.
Brittany is my partner in life—my travel companion, my bad idea filterer. And while I know we will have some amazing adventures together, she cannot satisfy my need for a profound story on her own.
So I’m writing my book and looking for what’s next.
Could you live a better story?